PART 7 THE JOYS OF SEX

TEXT- SONG OF SOLOMON 4:12-5:1

INTRODUCTION

TONIGHT I AM GOING TO CONTINUE WITH MY SERIES OF MESSAGES FROM THE BOOK SONG OF SOLOMON ON THE TOPIC, "HOW TO HAVE A MAGNIFICENT MARRIAGE."

OUR TEXT IS FOUND IN CHAPTER 4:12-5:1 AND THE TITLE OF MY MESSAGE IS, "THE JOYS OF SEX."

LAST WEDNESDAY NIGHT WE LOOKED AT WHAT SOLOMON HAD TO SAY ABOUT BEING ROMANTIC AND HAVING AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SPOUSE.

SEX WITHOUT INTIMACY IS LIKE TWO SLUGS ON A LEAF. MEN AND WOMEN LOOK AT SEX AND ROMANCE FROM TWO DIFFERENT VIEW POINTS. MEN USE ROMANCE TO GET SEX AND WOMEN USE SEX TO GET ROMANCE. MEN CAN'T GET ENOUGH SEX AND WOMEN CAN'T GET ENOUGH ROMANCE. MEN ARE THINKING ABOUT THE DESTINATION AND WOMEN ARE THINKING ABOUT THE ROAD. MEN ARE MICROWAVES AND WOMEN ARE CROCKPOTS. WHEN IS A MAN READY TO HAVE SEX? PHYSICALLY IT ONLY TAKES ABOUT 7 SECONDS. WHAT DOES A MAN HAVE TO BE DOING? IT DON'T MATTER! ANYTIME, ANYPLACE, HE IS READY.

A LITTLE BOY CAME HOME FROM HIS FIRST DAY AT SCHOOL AND ASKED HIS MOTHER, "MOM, WHAT IS SEX?" HIS MOTHER, WHO BELIEVED IN THE MOST MODERN EDUCATIONAL THEORIES, GAVE HIM A DETAILED EXPLANATION, COVERING ALL ASPECTS OF THE TRICKY SUBJECT. WHEN SHE HAD FINISHED, THE LITTLE BOY HANDED HER HIS ENROLLMENT FORM WHICH HIS TEACHER WANTED FILLED OUT AND SAID, "YEAH, BUT HOW AM I GOING TO GET ALL THAT INTO SUCH A SMALL BOX?"

BASICALLY THERE ARE THREE REASONS WHY GOD CREATED SEX.

FIRST, IT IS TO PROMOTE UNITY BETWEEN A HUSBAND AND WIFE. (EPHESIANS 5:31)

SECOND, IT IS TO PRODUCE CHILDREN. (GENESIS 1:28)

THIRD, IT IS TO PROVIDE ENJOYMENT. (PROVERBS 5:18-19)

WOODY ALLEN ONCE SAID, "SEX IS THE MOST FUN YOU CAN HAVE WITHOUT LAUGHING." IN A FAMILY CIRCLE SURVEY IT WAS DISCOVERED THAT OVER ONE-FIFTH OF THOSE SURVEYED ARE NOT FULLY SATISFIED WITH THEIR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP. IN FACT, ONLY 1% CHOSE SEX AS "THE BEST THING" ABOUT THEIR MARRIAGE.

MANY COUPLES ASSUME THAT EXCITEMENT IN A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP "JUST HAPPENS." WHILE THAT MAY BE TRUE IN THE BEGINNING IT TAKES WORK AND EFFORT TO MAKE SURE SEXUAL SATISFACTION LASTS.

TONIGHT I WOULD LIKE US TO LOOK AT FIVE KEYS FOR ENJOYING SEX.